Love isn’t supposed to hurt

If I could, I would sue all those fairy tales, mills & boons, chick flicks and love songs that damaged our heads and expose them for the lies they are! Honestly! How many times have you met a knight in shining armour eager to help a damsel (you) in distress? As for the mills & boon drop dead gorgeous arrogant hunks who cannot live without you? I won’t even start! Chick flicks, love songs – the whole lot, they should just get banned somehow!

Although, when you think about it, that whole lot is probably a good escape from the horrible reality. I laughed when a friend of mine furiously exclaimed how life is so negative because of this whole love thing. And it’s true, life can be so negative.

If you aren’t seeing anyone, then that guy you have the hots for probably doesn’t even know you exist, lol or if he does the feeling is not mutual. And then if you are seeing someone, you have no way at all of knowing if he is as crazy about you as you are about him!

I figure it hurts the most when you are not the opening up kind. Because at first putting up a wall helps yeah? You don’t have to let your guard down, you still don’t trust him fully and since you expect him to screw up anytime soon you really don’t care. When you start caring, that’s when you know your guard is down, the wall has been broken, vulnerability doesn’t even begin to describe you – when that happens, LOVE HURTS!

Why? Because by this time, he is probably so comfortable with you he isn’t chasing anymore. So all that attention, crazy lovey dovey is probably at a low and you end up second guessing everything he does. And if he isn’t sensitive enough to know that you need him to constantly remind you how much he loves you, lol, then you are most definitely going to send yourself to an early grave.

What to do? I have no solution my friends. Love is like a circle. At different parts there are different feelings: happiness, pain, fun, worry, hurt... the list is endless. So maybe if you feel hurt now, hopefully the next feeling won’t be so negative:).