3 Things every modern day woman with any sense of dignity needs

Even if your husband makes more than enough to feed the whole city every day, it is not wise to stay home, do nothing that generates cash and depend on him for everything. The future is never certain. What then happens if 1. he decides to leave you for someone else, 2. starts abusing you, 3. loses his job or 4. God forbid he dies? The problem is that women never think of all these scenarios but here is a list of what every modern day woman with any sense of dignity and pride needs:

1.      Education

It is no overstatement to say that education is important. It’s hard enough to get an okay job with a degree, what more without at least good O’levels. And nowadays just a degree isn’t even enough. A good education also isn’t just about getting a good job, it’s about opening your mind and having a good social standing. So what if you couldn’t afford to go to school when your age mates were doing so. That’s the past. What are you doing now? Go to evening school or enrol online point is, no woman with pride is satisfied with being uneducated!

2.      Economic Independence

Whilst you are working towards getting an education, do something with your hands – something that gets you your own money. Even if your man is loaded, it just cannot be right to ask him to sort out your every need. You need to get lingerie, your hair and nails done, new clothes – and if he is the kind that doesn’t give you your personal allowance, then what do you do? Beg every time? But if you made your own money you wouldn’t have to do that you know? And this is just the petty stuff. What happens if he leaves you, loses his job or dies? All scenarios require you to become the main breadwinner. Are you okay with allowing your family to have a drastic change of lifestyle just because you are too lazy to find something to do that generates cash? 

3.      Bravery

Every woman needs to be brave, if not for herself then for her children. The men we date are often very different from the ones we find ourselves married to. When he was your boyfriend, he thought the moon and sky of you, but I don’t know what happens and all of a sudden he is promiscuous and abusive. It’s not healthy to stay in such a relationship. If you don’t die from AIDS, or stress, it will be from him beating you up. The reason why most women stay in such marriages is because they have no education and economic independence. They know they have nowhere to go. Sure you can turn to family, but most of the time, you cannot stay with them forever. It would make sense if they were to help you till you get back on your feet. So get yourself that education and economic freedom and again God forbid, but if your husband begins to treat you less than you deserve, then be brave enough to leave him and take care of your family. If he comes back to his senses then good for you all. I figure it’s bad business to allow a man to think he owns you and that you are nothing without him.

 He should know that you WANT to be with him and that NEED has nothing to do with it. So how about you start on that track of getting to a point where you no longer need him eh? And get yourself a backbone!